Life is always happening!

I've been away from the blogging world far to long. lol I've been so busy and haven't had much time to myself. 


We've had a lot of changes happening that change how we approach DD yet again. We have a family living with us right now. The place we are in at the moment you can hear everything! The walls are so thin! HOH has decided that we will do little things. We don't have to hide things to much though because the wife is a submissive wife as well. They just don't practice DD. I can actually see myself telling her about it. Just not yet.

We are getting ready to move into our own place and the other family will move with us. The good thing is there will be plenty of space between our room and all the other rooms. :) 


It's been interesting adjusted our schedules. Everything is flowing well though. Our kids get a long great and we all have close to the same style of discipline. That helps out a lot.

It has been a struggle though staying submissive at times. My HOH is on a completely different schedule than we are so we only see him a few hours in the day. On top of that he works 6 to 7 days a week. I do my best to always remember I need to ask him first before I can do things. I do know my limits. I actually have something that I haven't told him about yet. It's nothing to big, but at the same time if I don't let him know soon it will be big.

I haven't done something like that in a long time. Every time I think to tell him, it just doesn't seem to be the right time. 

Working out our routine

We've been trying our best to figure out a good routine. One that also includes DD.  I have felt overwhelmed with all the different things that need to be done as well as the things I want to get done. This past Saturday we celebrated Valentines early. We used that time to go out to dinner and really hash out a good schedule as well as write down our expectations. We came up with a good schedule for all of us. So far it's working well. He wants me to follow the Flylady cleaning schedule. He is allowing me to slowly work in FLY Lady cleaning. It's been going well too. While we are getting used to the new schedule he will slowly work in DD. That way we can both get used to our roles and it not be overwhelming for either of us. He is also allowing me to take it one step at a time. Which is helping a lot! I have to keep reminding myself that he doesn't expect a change over night.

Marriage.

That's what is going on all over now a days. A lot of people hearts are "broken" and what do they do about it? Nothing. Instead of fighting for their marriage they give up! People give up so easily. When we marry some one and say our vows we are pledging our life to another. We are saying I want to spend the rest of my life with you. We are saying through good and bad, ups and downs, money or no money, illness or health, that we will stay with them till the end! We aren't saying "if you say something I don't like I'm going to leave you".
I've been married for 11 years. Not all of it was pretty, I even feel into the divorce mind trap. "If you don't act like this I'll divorce you" or "if you don't treat me like this I'll divorce you".  


One thing that I believe we should all keep in the forefront of our mind:
1 Corinthians 13:4-13

⁴ Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. ⁵ It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. ⁶ Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. ⁷ It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

 ⁸ Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. ⁹ For we know in part and we prophesy in part, ¹⁰ but when perfection comes, the imperfect disappears. ¹¹ When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put childish ways behind me. ¹² Now we see but a poor reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known.

 ¹³ And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.

These verses talk about what love means. It seems that so many people now days are so full of anger and selfishness. If only people would understand how much better their marriage could be if they actually worked at it, instead of giving up after the first time of trouble. God wants us to love one another. He wants us to honor our vows to each other. Marriage isn't just some phase that people go through. It's a life long commitment to each other. It's putting someone elses needs before yours. It's loving them unconditionally. There should never be conditions to your love. It's trusting your spouse and cherishing them.

I pray that our daughter learns to value marriage. I pray that she learns to cherish her husband. I pray that she learns to stand by her man through thick and thin. I pray that our marriage is a good example to our daughter. I pray that her marriage will be full of love for God and for each other. 

Boot Camp continues.....

We are in day 3 of this weeks 3 day boot camp. This has been a very good experience. HOH is really stepping up to his role as head of house. He is in charge and I know it! I especially like the homework time. That's when we really get to know more about each other. I love how dominant he is being and I pray that it continues after we finish boot camp. Don't get me wrong my butt has been a nice shade of red these past couple of days. That's what has helped keep me inline. HOH noticed the difference in my attitude after he would spank me. He likes the results. I like the results. I never thought I could have such a peace about our marriage. Both of us have struggled from time to time. This life style is something that neither one of us saw growing up. He was used to a dominating woman and I was used to that as well. I wasn't taught any different. We both see the difference CDD has made in our marriage. I thank God that we were able to find something that will help us grow closer together. 

Very Humbled.

I was restrained tonight for 15 minutes. It was because of my attitude. I had gotten attitude with him while we were out doing laundry and he spanked me right there in the laundry mat. I was so thankful that no one was there but us. For some reason though the I just kept giving him attitude. Finally he had had enough and he put the restraints on the bed and restrained me. He had me do it nude. Nothing erotic just make me feel more submissive. I was there alone for 15 minutes. I didn't expect it to have such a humbling effect. 

Boot Camp Fun.

It's actually been nice having him control every situation. The spankings with the paddle I can do without though. lol The first night I had 5 sessions of spankings. 4 were for things I did wrong over the weekend while family was here and one was to start off our boot camp. My booty was so sore afterwards. Even getting an 8 hour break (sleeping) my booty was still sore. We've both learned a lot during this time. We did two days of it and are going to do 3 more days next week. HOH broke it in half because daughter and I were having a hard time adjusting to his schedule. We are working our way into his schedule slowly though.
Right now he is making plans for the 3 days that we are doing next week. I'm looking forward to it. I never expected to enjoying this experience. 

Boot camp schedule

Tonight HOH told me the schedule for our boot camp. It will last five days. Right now he is working nights and since I homeschool our daughter we will adjust to his schedule.
So here it is.
7:30am Run (he'll get home around 7 and we will run after that)
10am spanking and then bed.
5-6pm wake up spanking
7pm "breakfast"
8pm spanking and homework
10pm spanking and homework
10:30 he goes to work and I'll start schooling and chores.
We are going to talk more about what the homework will be tomorrow on our date.